Do you really think there is such a thing as a bad kid? Well think again; My live research has shows that there is only bad parenting, which means the kid isn't getting what he needs. Parents many times think they do whatever they can, but the truth is- they have a lack of empathy and understanding regarding their own child.
Everything in this world happens for a reason, cause and effect. We all might think it is just circumstances that led us to the place we are at, but those circumstances are actually a side effect of our own choices. In fact, everything that happens to us is a direct response of the universe to our actions. As well as with job, friends and relationships, it works for your kids too, and even more than with everything else.
There is no such a thing as a bad kid, unless he was born psychopath, which is a genetic problem. There is such a thing as wrong parenting, in every aspect possible.
Children are raised by their parents, not the opposite. There are so many people in the world who make kids only to have someone for them, but they get it totally wrong and do every mistake possible, raising a copy of themselves instead of raising the person their kid should be, the way they would like to be raised as children even if it isn't what their kid wants or needs. They don't teach their kids to think by themselves, they just tell them what to do all the time, nice way or not. In that way, parents many times make their kids lazy and incapable of independence, and they can't understand why their kid is the way he is. They don't take time to look at their own parenting system, and they just expect their kids "to understand" how they should act in order to satisfy their parents.
Discipline vs. Spoiling
Your kid needs discipline, no doubt about it, like it or not. Letting your kid watch cartoons instead of playing with him, or letting him play with the smartphone instead of teaching him something new, is not really a good discipline and even the opposite. Don't be afraid to spend time with your children, it is something you must do, because your kid also needs to feel loved. Take him out, teach him to write and read, pay attention to their real requests, like what they want to do when they grow up or how much they love you. The hardest part about parenting is to combine love and discipline in the right dosing, to make sure you pay enough attention to their needs and teach them to be a good person at the same time, without spoiling or raising a post trauma case.
Unfortunately. what many parents doing is only one of those two; they either spoil their kid too much or they discipline him too roughly, and it probably happens because they don't know how to combine and make it right, so they just do whatever they can. It is understood why it happens now, but are there any parents who would like to actually fix this? That is what is really important to me. Parenting is the most responsible role people can take on themselves, therefor as a fact they must grow and self-develop all the time, so they would have something to give to their kids. Well I hope you do understand that, and always keep working on combining everything in the right proportion.
If you feel like you can't help yourself by your own, there is always an option to consult with someone who knows better, don't be afraid of judgment because only this way you will learn and become better than you were.
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